Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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43. Dangerous In Love Series: Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists

A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd., LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in Oakland and Sacramento CA. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma.

This episode is the first in my Dangerous In Love Series, where I discuss manipulation tactics that narcissists use to maintain control in abusive relationships. In this episode, I give a broad over view of common abusive tactics used by narcissists. The episode is also unique in that it was featured first on Facebook and Instagram live!

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42. The Dark Side of the Female Orgasm: Featuring Dr. Laurie Mintz, PhD.

Dr. Laurie Mintz, LP who is in private practice, a professor for the University of Florida, author of Becoming Cliterate & A Tired Woman’s Guide To Passionate Sex joins us on the couch today to discuss the importance and the stigma around a women’s sexual pleasure. Dr. Laurie breaks down why a woman’s sexual satisfaction is often overlooked, and what we as women can do to address misogynistic views around female sexuality. Lastly, Dr. Laurie discusses the red flags in a relationship when a partner is not concerned with your sexual satisfaction – and why you should run as fast as you can if this happens to you!

Resources Mentioned:

Books

Becoming Cliterate, by Dr. Laurie Mintz

A Tired Woman’s Guide To Passionate Sex, By Dr. Laurie Mintzby Dr. Laurie Mintz

Contact Dr. Laurie Mintz, PhD. at:

https://www.drlauriemintz.com/

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41. How The Power of Non-Sexual Touch Can Help Manage Our Emotions, Featuring Shayla Tumbling, LPC-A

Shayla Tumbling, MS, LPC-A and I discuss how non-platonic touch can help with regulating your emotions and mood. She discusses her experience as a professional cuddler and how she teach people how to touch her and themselves in a non-sexual manner. We explore how platonic touch aides in helping us have healthier relationships.

Resources Mentioned:

Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person’s Guide to Nurturing Human Touch, by Epiphany Miriam Jordan

Patterns of Attachment, By Mary Ainsworth 

Love at Goon Park: Harry Harlow and the Science of Affectiion

Contact Ms. Shayla Tumbling MS, LPC-A at: Shayla.tumbling@gmail.com

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40. Understanding Why the Non-Narcissistic Parent is Falsely Accused of Being the Bad Parent, Featuring Dr. Carmen Roman PhD.

I am joined by Dr. Carmen Roman, PhD., who is the host of Emotions In Harmony Podcast, and who also specializes in working with Latino families who have experienced trauma. Dr. Carmen discusses how a narcissistic parent influences the family dynamics. A phenomenon develops where the non-narcissistic parent is neglected and seen as the bad guy through the eyes of the family.

Resources Mentioned:

Blogs:

https://drnataliejones.com/cz4ffao0xy7ok7bbuemml6esyycy4j/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201405/narcissistic-parents-psychological-effect-their-children

Contact Dr. Carmen Roman, PhD. at:

https://armoniaemocional.com/

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39. The Love Junkie: Understanding Love Addiction, Intimacy Disorders, and Sexual Anorexia, featuring Shena Tubbs, LPC

Shena Tubbs, LPC, CSAT-C, trauma recovery coach, host of the Love Junkie podcast, and owner of Black Girls Heal in Houston, TX joins us today to discuss love addiction, problems with intimacy, and sexual anorexia. Shena Tubbs specializes in working with African American women and helping them understand how their early childhood experiences have shaped their ideas about love, intimacy, and sex.
Resources Mentioned:

Books:
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine, MD and Rachel Heller, MA

Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred by Patrick Carnes, PhD.

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Melody

Avoidant: How to Love or Leave a Dismissive Partner, by Jeb Kennison

Support:

Sex Addicts Anonymous

Love Addicts Anonymous

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

Contact Shena Tubbs, LPC at:

www.blackgirlsheal.org

http://www.shenatubbs.com

http://www.shenathetherapist.com

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38. Healing the Broken Spirit: Reflections of How Sexual Assault Affects Women of Color

In this discussion, I invited guest Babita Spinelli, a licensed psychoanalyst in NY/NJ who specializes in treating women of color who have suffered childhood sexual assault. Babita and I discuss the importance of addressing the cultural differences in women of color who are survivors of sexual assault in their community. She discusses the extra barriers that women of color must face in their communities, treatment, and families.

Resources Mentioned:

The Courage To Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse WIth Compassion

www.Rainn.org

Contact Babita Spinelli at www.openingthedoorspsychotherapy.com

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37. Snooping On Your Ex’s Social Media Account: Exploring The Need to Keep Tabs

Social Media Week, Episode 2. I am joined by Audrey Townsel, LP and owner of Calyx Psychological Services in Tennessee. We continue discussing reasons why folks can’t let go and continue to spy on their ex’s social media accounts after a breakup. Dr. Townsel also provides tips on how to know when our spying becomes pathological, when to get help, and how to move on.

Resources:

Addicted to Pain, by Rainie Howard

Picking Up the Pieces, by Dee Simone

To contact Dr. Audrey Townsel, please visit her website:

www.calyxpsychological.com

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36. Spying On Your Ex on Social Media After A Break-up

Social Media Week, Episode #1. In this solocast, I discuss some of the reasons that one will spy on their ex on social media after a break-up. After a break-up, we are compelled to see how our ex is doing and if they have moved on, and who they have moved on with. I list out the reasons why we do this, and how we can stop.

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35. Don’t Ask, But We Will Tell: Uncovering the Sexual Abuse Occurring in the Military, Featuring Dr. Tanisha Ranger

Dr. Tanisha Ranger, Licensed Psychologist and owner of Insight to Action private practice joins us today to talk about sexually abusive behavior which occurs towards our men and women in the military. Dr. Ranger specializes in working with sexual addition and with military personnel. She enlightens us on how sexually inappropriate acts occur, fail to be reported, and are minimized and/or dismissed when they happen to military personnel.

To connect with Dr. Tanisha Ranger, please visit: http://www.insighttoaction.net

Resources mentioned:

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van der Kolk

Waking the Tiger, Peter Levine

www.protectourdefenders.com

www.rainn.org

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34. It Takes a Village: How Reduction in Parental Shame Can Protect Our Children

On today’s episode, Mercedes Samudio, LCSW, Parent Coach, and owner of Shame Proof Parenting discusses how support and empathy can help to reduce parental frustration. She expresses concern about how our society can cause increased parental stress by giving unwarranted criticism which may ultimately contribute to parents taking out their frustrations on their children.

To Connect with Mercedes Samudio, LCSW, please visit: http://www.parentproofshaming.com

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