Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes, I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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72. Liberation from Racialized Trauma, Featuring Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C

I am joined by Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C who discussed her work on Black liberation and healing from racialized trauma. Given the recent surge in media coverage of police brutality and racial unrest, it is important that we educate ourselves and manage our self-care. Shawna discussed the difference between Black liberation and cultural sensitivity/awareness. Lastly, Shawna discusses her personal journey of picking up the pieces after her arrest and using her experience to help others.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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Website for Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C: https://www.shawnamurraybrowne.com/

Instagram Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C: Heal A Sista

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71. Exploring the Gifts of Grief; Featuring Dr. Ajita Robinson, PhD, LCPC

Dr. Ajita Robinson, PhD, LCPC joins us today to talk about her new book The Gift of Grief which addresses different types of grief, how to honor our own grief, and how to respect those who have experienced loss. She shares the difficulty with loss in relationships through breakups, divorce, incarceration, and even death. She also shares how difficult grief can be when society deems you to be unworthy of grieving such as those who experience disenfranchised loss. Lastly, Dr. Robinson discussed why we grief for those who have hurt us, and how we can begin our healing journey.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Resources Mentioned:

Book:

The Gift of Grief: A Practical Guide on Navigating Grief and Loss

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Website for Dr. Robinson:https://ajitarobinson.com/

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70. Understanding Character Disturbances, Featuring Dr. George Simon, PhD.

Dr. George Simon, PhD. joins us today to help us understand what character disturbances are and how we should treat those who are extremely dangerous and manipulative. According to Dr. Simon, PhD, those who have character disturbances should be held accountable for their behavior and strict boundaries need to be maintained. He discusses why society has come to accept those with character disturbances. He discussed his personal challenges with educating people who are involved with manipulative personalities.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Resources Mentioned:

Books:

Dr. George Simon, PhD is the highly esteemed author of several books including:

Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age 

In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People

How Did We Get Here? Surviving and Thriving in a Character Disordered World

The Judas Syndrome: Why Good People Do Awful Things 

See the YouTube Version of this podcast and subscribe to the YT channel: https://youtu.be/z8uDCcOl3zg

Website: https://www.drgeorgesimon.com/

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69. Fighting for Divorce and Custody With the Narcissist, Featuring Steven Peskind, Esq.

Steven Peskind, Esq. owner of Peskind Law Firm in IL, joins us today for a candid conversation on his expertise in divorce law. Mr. Peskind shares how complicated things get when trying to divorce a narcissistic spouse. He explains how toxic spouses would rather spend more money engaging in high conflict battles over assets, custody, and visitation rights rather than coming to a peaceful resolution. Lastly, Mr. Peskind discusses red flags of divorces that have the potential to have grave consequences.

*Please note: Information provided episode is considered to be educational information and suggestions. It may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Books Mentioned:

Divorce in Illinois, by Steven N. Peskind

The Laws of Human Nature, by Robert Greene

To connect with attorney Steven Peskind, Esq., visit: his website
LinkedIn: Peskind Law Firm
Facebook: @peskindlawfirm
IG: @peskindlaw
Twitter: @StevenPeskind
For the video version of this podcast please visit: A Date With Darkness Youtube Channel

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68. The Darker the Berry, The Deeper The Hurt: Featuring Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, PhD. and Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.

Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD. a sex therapist and owner of A Nod In the Right Direction psychotherapy. Dr. Donna Oriowo and I discuss the overt abuse that darker-skinned people face in our society. Specifically, we talk about colorism, texturism, and the privileges that lighter skinned people have in their relationships and the workforce because of the standards of beauty. There is also a special introductory reading of a clip of my dissertation by Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder of Therapy for Black Girls.

*Note: Minor technical difficulties in the episode’s audio

Resources:

Find a therapist at: Therapy For Black Girls

Cocoa Butter and Hair Grease Book

Cocoa Butter and Hair Grease Through My Amazon Store

To connect with Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.
annodright.com
donnaoriowo.com
Facebook Group: CBHG Collective
Facebook: Facebook.com/annodright
IG: instagram.com/annodright
Twitter: @drdonnaoriowo

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67. Fighting the Energy Vampires, Featuring Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD

Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD OB/GYN and author of Dodging Energy Vampires joins us today to help us understand why we feel drained by the energy that certain people bring to relationships. According to Dr. Northrup, stress from those who continue to challenge our boundaries and drain our emotional health, also cause us to be physically sick. She also shares her personal story of having energy vampires in her life, and how she utilizes coping strategies and screenings to keep them away.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Book Mentioned: Dodging Energy Vampires, by Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD.

ACEs Study

Website: Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD

IG: @DrChristianeNorthrup

Twitter: @DrChrisNorthrup

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66. Fatphobia: Facing the Impact of Society’s Narcissistic Views on Body Image, Featuring Sonalee Rashatwar, LCSW, MEd.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Joining us on the couch today, is Sonalee Rashatwar, LCSW, MEd who is also known as the ever popular Fat Sex Therapist on Instagram. Sonalee and I discuss how society’s narcissistic views on body image developed and how it has an impact on what we view as healthy, how we feel about ourselves, and how this shows up in our bedroom. Sonalee also shared her battle with loving the skin that she’s in and the impact that this has had on her life.

Website for Sonalee Rashatwar, LCSW, MEd.

IG: @sonaleer

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65. Thoughtful Reflections on A Father’s Beliefs About His Daughter’s Virginity, Featuring Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD. a sex therapist and owner of A Nod In the Right Direction psychotherapy. Dr. Donna Oriowo and I discuss the infamous T.I. interview in which the rapper discussed going with his daughter to her yearly gynecology appointment to insure her virginity. We explored the implications of the statements that he made and how his views and actions may have more of a long-term negative impact on his daughter.

Resources:

SexTalkParentEdition.com (50% code:” Darkness” this code is good until November 30th)
Sex Positive Families (On Facebook, Instagram, and their website)
https://sexpositivefamilies.com
Planned Parenthood
Amaze
****There are more resources in the workbook that comes with the Sex Talk Parent Edition Webinar

To connect with Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.
annodright.com
donnaoriowo.com

Facebook: Facebook.com/annodright
IG: instagram.com/annodright
Twitter: @drdonnaoriowo
*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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64. Listener Question #1: Tips for How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

In this episode, I provided tips and suggestions to a listener’s question about how to co-parent with a narcissistic ex. If you are just tuning in for the first time, I clarify how important it is not to pathologize or diagnose the other parent without being well-informed. Being able to normalize your emotions, decompress, find emotional support, and making efforts to inform your child without putting them in the middle of a volatile situation are recommended tips.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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63. Confession #6: Living With Parental Incest, Featuring Nancy Allen

Nancy Allen, host of the podcast Tail of The Bell joins us today to share her personal story of being sexually abused by her father. Nancy explains how difficult it was to be taken from her family, placed in the system, and be treated as though she was the one who did something wrong. She discusses the impact that parental incest has had on her life and how she overcome it.

To contact Nancy Allen please visit: www.tailofthebell.com

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