Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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68. The Darker the Berry, The Deeper The Hurt: Featuring Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, PhD. and Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.

Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD. a sex therapist and owner of A Nod In the Right Direction psychotherapy. Dr. Donna Oriowo and I discuss the overt abuse that darker-skinned people face in our society. Specifically, we talk about colorism, texturism, and the privileges that lighter skinned people have in their relationships and the workforce because of the standards of beauty. There is also a special introductory reading of a clip of my dissertation by Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder of Therapy for Black Girls.

*Note: Minor technical difficulties in the episode’s audio

Resources:

Find a therapist at: Therapy For Black Girls

Cocoa Butter and Hair Grease Book

Cocoa Butter and Hair Grease Through My Amazon Store

To connect with Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.
annodright.com
donnaoriowo.com
Facebook Group: CBHG Collective
Facebook: Facebook.com/annodright
IG: instagram.com/annodright
Twitter: @drdonnaoriowo

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67. Fighting the Energy Vampires, Featuring Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD

Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD OB/GYN and author of Dodging Energy Vampires joins us today to help us understand why we feel drained by the energy that certain people bring to relationships. According to Dr. Northrup, stress from those who continue to challenge our boundaries and drain our emotional health, also cause us to be physically sick. She also shares her personal story of having energy vampires in her life, and how she utilizes coping strategies and screenings to keep them away.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Book Mentioned: Dodging Energy Vampires, by Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD.

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Website: Dr. Christiane Northrup, MD

IG: @DrChristianeNorthrup

Twitter: @DrChrisNorthrup

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66. Fatphobia: Facing the Impact of Society’s Narcissistic Views on Body Image, Featuring Sonalee Rashatwar, LCSW, MEd.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Joining us on the couch today, is Sonalee Rashatwar, LCSW, MEd who is also known as the ever popular Fat Sex Therapist on Instagram. Sonalee and I discuss how society’s narcissistic views on body image developed and how it has an impact on what we view as healthy, how we feel about ourselves, and how this shows up in our bedroom. Sonalee also shared her battle with loving the skin that she’s in and the impact that this has had on her life.

Website for Sonalee Rashatwar, LCSW, MEd.

IG: @sonaleer

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65. Thoughtful Reflections on A Father’s Beliefs About His Daughter’s Virginity, Featuring Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD. a sex therapist and owner of A Nod In the Right Direction psychotherapy. Dr. Donna Oriowo and I discuss the infamous T.I. interview in which the rapper discussed going with his daughter to her yearly gynecology appointment to insure her virginity. We explored the implications of the statements that he made and how his views and actions may have more of a long-term negative impact on his daughter.

Resources:

SexTalkParentEdition.com (50% code:” Darkness” this code is good until November 30th)
Sex Positive Families (On Facebook, Instagram, and their website)
https://sexpositivefamilies.com
Planned Parenthood
Amaze
****There are more resources in the workbook that comes with the Sex Talk Parent Edition Webinar

To connect with Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.
annodright.com
donnaoriowo.com

Facebook: Facebook.com/annodright
IG: instagram.com/annodright
Twitter: @drdonnaoriowo
*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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64. Listener Question #1: Tips for How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

In this episode, I provided tips and suggestions to a listener’s question about how to co-parent with a narcissistic ex. If you are just tuning in for the first time, I clarify how important it is not to pathologize or diagnose the other parent without being well-informed. Being able to normalize your emotions, decompress, find emotional support, and making efforts to inform your child without putting them in the middle of a volatile situation are recommended tips.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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63. Confession #6: Living With Parental Incest, Featuring Nancy Allen

Nancy Allen, host of the podcast Tail of The Bell joins us today to share her personal story of being sexually abused by her father. Nancy explains how difficult it was to be taken from her family, placed in the system, and be treated as though she was the one who did something wrong. She discusses the impact that parental incest has had on her life and how she overcome it.

To contact Nancy Allen please visit: www.tailofthebell.com

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62. Understanding Narcissism From the Perspective of a Narcissist: Featuring HG Tudor

Author HG Tudor joins us on the couch today to discuss his perspective on narcissism. HG Tudor has written several books on narcissism which specifically address what narcissism is, how to figure out if the person that you are in a relationship with is a narcissist, and why narcissists do what they do in relationships. HG Tudor also shared why he chooses to stay anonymous and how his life has been impacted by his history with narcissism.

Books Written By HG Tudor:

Why? Understanding The Narcissist’s Behavior By HG Tudor

Escape: How To Beat The Narcissist by HG Tudor

Sitting Target: How and Why The Narcissist Chooses You by HG Tudor

To contact HG Tudor please visit: www.narcsite.com

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61. Taking a Closer Look at Suicide and Self-Harm: Featuring Dr. Meagan Houston-Bright, LP

Dr. Meagan Houston-Bright, PhD is a police psychologist based out of Houston, TX; who specializes in working with those who struggle with suicide and self-harm. Today, she joins us to explain how the difference between suicide, self-harm, suicidal gestures, and morbid ideations. She discusses the importance of taking threats seriously. Lastly, we discuss the impact of the threat of self-harm on toxic relationships.

Resources:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  – 800-273-8255

https://www.samhsa.gov/

Treating Suicidal Clients and Self-Harming Behaviors, by Dr. Meagan N. Houston, PhD

Why Does He Do That, by Lundy Bancroft

The White Knight Syndrome, by Marilyn Kreiger & Mary Lamia

Healing From Hidden Abuse, by Shannon Thomas LCSW

Healing the Trauma of Abuse Workbook by Mary Copeland MS & Maxine Harris, PhD

Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence by Philip Cook

To contact Dr. Houston-Bright, PhD please visit

Dr. Houston’s Website

Dr. Houston’s Instagram

Dr. Houston’s Facebook

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60. Confession #5: Mr. and Mrs. X’s Fight Against the Financially Abusive Ex

Mr. & Mrs. X discuss their personal experience in dealing with Mrs. X’s ex, who refuses to keep stable employment and prefers for her to financially support his lifestyle. We discuss red flags in the beginning of the relationship as well as cultural beliefs of Mrs. X that caused her to stay in the relationship and refrain from discussing the problems in the relationship with those that cared about her. Lastly, the X’s discuss their disappointment in the court system and how they felt misunderstood.

Blog Post Mentioned:

When Your Partner Refuses to Get a Job

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59. Restoring Your Personal Energy, Featuring Brandi Lewis, LPC

Brandi Lewis, LPC owner and director of Reach Counseling Solutions LLC in Charlotte, NC joins us in a candid discussion about her work with survivors of abuse. Joy and personal energy can be completely depleted from us when we are caught in relationships that are abusive. Without realizing it, we carry negative energy with us from relationship to relationship – which perpetuates a pattern Brandi enlightens us on why we do this, and what steps we can take to have a happy and joyous energy after weathering stormy relationships.

Connect with Brandi Lewis, LPC at: http://www.reachcounselingsolutions.com

Resources:

Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath’s Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power

Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself

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