Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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29. Understanding and Healing From Psychological Abuse

Psychological abuse is a component of all abusive relationships, especially relationships with a narcissist. Julie Clockston, LCSW is the owner of Julie Clockston Counseling in Aurora, CO and specializes in working with women who are healing from psychological abuse. Julie discusses psychological abuse that we experience in relationships with narcissists, and how we can heal from the cycle of abuse. She offers tips and suggestions on how to recognize and overcome the abuse.

To connect with Julie Clockston, visit:

https://www.facebook.com/julieclockstoncounseling/

or email: Juliej@gmail.com

Resources mentioned:

Codependent No More, By Melodie Beattie

Walking the Tiger, Healing Trauma by Peter Levine

Healing From Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery From Psychological Abuse, by Shannon Thomas

The Brain Fix, By Ralph Carson, Phd.

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Why Does He Do That, By Lundy Bancroft

ROAR FB Group

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28. Confession #2: How Joshua Shea’s Sex Addiction Got the Best of Him

This is confession #2, with Joshua Shea, a writer, who was a publisher of a lifestyle magazine, creator of a film festival in Maine, and was a politician got himself into hot water when he convinced a teenager to commit a sex act via webcam. Mr. Shea described himself as a narcissist, who struggled with bipolar disorder and addictions, which spiraled out of control. Mr. Shea discussed the process of being charged as a sex offender, and how it has impacted him. As a result of his experience, Mr. Shea has a written a book to educate others on sexual addiction, which has been cathartic in his healing process.

Book Mentioned:

The Addiction That Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, By Joshua Shea

www.amazon.com/author/joshuashea

To connect with Joshua Shea: www.recoverypornaddict.com

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27. Anxious In Love: How to Stop Our Insecurities From Ruining Our Relationships

Dr. Alicia Hodge, PsyD who is in private practice in VA, and specializes in treating obsessive compulsive disorders, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, self-esteem, and rigid thinking using cognitive behavior therapy joins us today to discuss how our anxiety can cause unhealthy relationships .She enlightens us on how overthinking can actually be detrimental and sabotage the health of our relationships; and offers tips on how we can relieve our anxiety.

Resources Mentioned:

Anxious in Love: How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict, and Reconnect With Your Partner By Carolyn Daitch

Insecure In Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It. By Leslie Becker-Phelps

To connect with Dr. Alicia Hodge please visit: www.helpmehodge.com

email: ahodge@centerforcbtva.com

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26. Confession #1: Struggles with Substance Abuse and Abandonment in the Family

This is the first episode in which a guest shares their personal story about struggling and healing from abandonment and substance abuse in her family. Charnessa Pleasant, LCSW explores how her ups and downs have shaped her journey as a therapist.

To connect with Charnessa, please email thehealingcollab@gmail.com

facebook.com/thehealingcollaborativepllc

Resources Mentioned:

www.NAMI.org

www.na.org

www.aa.org

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25. Understanding and Dealing With Toxic Anger and Rage

Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI, Certified Anger Management Specialist and I sit down to have a chat about the function of anger and how it can help or hurt us. Patrice and I discuss cultural hot topics such as the angry black woman and the angry family. She also shares tips and tools about anger that is out of control.

To connect with Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI go to www.patricendouglas.com

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24. Rediscovering Your Sexual Health

Chasity Chandler, LMHC, ICADC, CST, CDWF, MCAP discusses the importance of understanding and having discussions about how sexual health. Her candid conversation explains why not having conversations about sexual health can lead to feelings of shame and guilt.

To connect with Ms. Chasity Chandler please visit her website http://www.centerforsexualhealthandwellness.com

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23. Stop the People Pleasing and Teach People How to Respect Your Boundaries

In this episode, Latasha Matthews, LPC and I have a candid discussion about boundaries. Latasha is the owner of Illumination Counseling and Coaching and she explains what boundaries are, why they are needed for self-preservation, and ways to protect ourselves without feeling guilty. Lack of boundaries and the inability to say no can lead to destructive relationships.

Resources Mentioned:

Boundaries, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

To connect with Latasha Matthews, LPCC please visit www.illuminationcc.com

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22. Mediation, Reviving, and Thriving After Divorce

The 1st episode of season 2! In this episode we discuss divorce and the impact that it has on the family. My guest Ms. Chaute Thompson, LMHC, wears many hats as a RESET and Divorce Mindfulness Coach, Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, and Parenting Coordinator. Chaute discusses the change that happens as a family goes through a divorce, as well as how women struggle to rebuild life after divorce. She discusses the process of family mediation, and how she helps to empower the children and the parents through the process.

Resources Mentioned:

Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn, By John Maxwell

The Five Love Languages, By Gary Chapman

To connect with Chaute Thompson LMHC, please visit www.inspirehopehealthhealing.com

www.chautethompson.com

visit Chaute’s FB Group: Brand New Me-Phenomenal You

Visit Instagram: Chaute Thompson

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21. Where Was The Village To Protect The Children: How We Can Prevent Child Abuse, Torture, and Death

In this solo episode, I review the case of Mitchelle Blair, which is where a mother murdered and tortured her children. How did this happen? I discuss how we as a community can come together and intervene when families are experiencing abuse.

Resources Mentioned:

Casefile Podcast Episode 20: Stoni Blair and Stephen Berry

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20. Addiction and the Narcissistic Partner

Robert Cox, LMHC at Life Recovery Consulting discusses codependency and boundaries with narcissistic partners who struggle with addiction. Addiction in narcissistic partners, if it’s possible to help a narcissistic partner with an addiction, and how to know when it’s time to walk away from a unhealthy relationship are highlights of the discussion.

Resources Mentioned:

Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can or Should Be Saved, by Lundy Bancroft

Al-Anon

Alateen

Narc-anon

Coda

To connect with Robert Cox, LMHC please contact www.liferecoveryconsulting.com for more information.

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