Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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37. Snooping On Your Ex’s Social Media Account: Exploring The Need to Keep Tabs

Social Media Week, Episode 2. I am joined by Audrey Townsel, LP and owner of Calyx Psychological Services in Tennessee. We continue discussing reasons why folks can’t let go and continue to spy on their ex’s social media accounts after a breakup. Dr. Townsel also provides tips on how to know when our spying becomes pathological, when to get help, and how to move on.

Resources:

Addicted to Pain, by Rainie Howard

Picking Up the Pieces, by Dee Simone

To contact Dr. Audrey Townsel, please visit her website:

www.calyxpsychological.com

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36. Spying On Your Ex on Social Media After A Break-up

Social Media Week, Episode #1. In this solocast, I discuss some of the reasons that one will spy on their ex on social media after a break-up. After a break-up, we are compelled to see how our ex is doing and if they have moved on, and who they have moved on with. I list out the reasons why we do this, and how we can stop.

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35. Don’t Ask, But We Will Tell: Uncovering the Sexual Abuse Occurring in the Military, Featuring Dr. Tanisha Ranger

Dr. Tanisha Ranger, Licensed Psychologist and owner of Insight to Action private practice joins us today to talk about sexually abusive behavior which occurs towards our men and women in the military. Dr. Ranger specializes in working with sexual addition and with military personnel. She enlightens us on how sexually inappropriate acts occur, fail to be reported, and are minimized and/or dismissed when they happen to military personnel.

To connect with Dr. Tanisha Ranger, please visit: http://www.insighttoaction.net

Resources mentioned:

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van der Kolk

Waking the Tiger, Peter Levine

www.protectourdefenders.com

www.rainn.org

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34. It Takes a Village: How Reduction in Parental Shame Can Protect Our Children

On today’s episode, Mercedes Samudio, LCSW, Parent Coach, and owner of Shame Proof Parenting discusses how support and empathy can help to reduce parental frustration. She expresses concern about how our society can cause increased parental stress by giving unwarranted criticism which may ultimately contribute to parents taking out their frustrations on their children.

To Connect with Mercedes Samudio, LCSW, please visit: http://www.parentproofshaming.com

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33. Confession #4: My Breakup Experience and Heartache featuring Avalaura

Avalaura, LGSW; owner of Avalaura’s Healing Center discussed her personal experience with a painful breakup. She provided insight about signs and feelings that we should pay attention to within ourselves when our relationships are unhealthy, dysfunctional, and no longer serve a purpose.

To connect with Avalaura, please visit: http://www.avalaura.com

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32. How to Get Past the Hurt and Pain of a Breakup

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford PhD, the creator of Therapy For Black Girls podcast and private practice joins us today to discuss the Pain associated with breakups and why it can be difficult to move on. Dr. Harden Bradford offers tips on how to cope with a loss of a love, and get back to feeling whole again.

To connect with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford please visit: https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com

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31. Finding the Inner Strength to Survive Sex Work

Arnitta Holliman, LPC discusses the background and the abusive turmoil that women who are in the sex trade endure. The struggle that the women often endure includes homelessness, abuse, abandonment, as well as difficulty having their basic needs met. She describes the process of helping the women find resources, in addition to helping them address their mental health issues.

To connect with Arnitta Holliman, please visit: www.facebook.com/arnittaholliman

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30. Confession #3: Normalizing and Using Violence As A Law Enforcement Officer

Confession #3. Kareem Puranda, LPC and owner of Self Talk Counseling and Consulting in Charlotte, NC discusses growing up in a violent environment in NY, and how that experience influenced his experience as a law enforcement officer in the Salisbury PD. Kareem also discusses the pivotal moment in his law enforcement career in which violence escalated, was caught on film, and made him re-evaluate his behavior. His experience was the motivation behind his book.

To connect with Kareem, please visit:

https://www.selftalkcounseling.com/about

Resources Mentioned:

Breaking the Code of Silence, by Kareem Puranda

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29. Understanding and Healing From Psychological Abuse

Psychological abuse is a component of all abusive relationships, especially relationships with a narcissist. Julie Clockston, LCSW is the owner of Julie Clockston Counseling in Aurora, CO and specializes in working with women who are healing from psychological abuse. Julie discusses psychological abuse that we experience in relationships with narcissists, and how we can heal from the cycle of abuse. She offers tips and suggestions on how to recognize and overcome the abuse.

To connect with Julie Clockston, visit:

https://www.facebook.com/julieclockstoncounseling/

or email: Juliej@gmail.com

Resources mentioned:

Codependent No More, By Melodie Beattie

Walking the Tiger, Healing Trauma by Peter Levine

Healing From Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery From Psychological Abuse, by Shannon Thomas

The Brain Fix, By Ralph Carson, Phd.

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Why Does He Do That, By Lundy Bancroft

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28. Confession #2: How Joshua Shea’s Sex Addiction Got the Best of Him

This is confession #2, with Joshua Shea, a writer, who was a publisher of a lifestyle magazine, creator of a film festival in Maine, and was a politician got himself into hot water when he convinced a teenager to commit a sex act via webcam. Mr. Shea described himself as a narcissist, who struggled with bipolar disorder and addictions, which spiraled out of control. Mr. Shea discussed the process of being charged as a sex offender, and how it has impacted him. As a result of his experience, Mr. Shea has a written a book to educate others on sexual addiction, which has been cathartic in his healing process.

Book Mentioned:

The Addiction That Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, By Joshua Shea

www.amazon.com/author/joshuashea

To connect with Joshua Shea: www.recoverypornaddict.com

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