Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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19. The Lasting Impacts of Trauma and Colorism In a Narcissistic Society

In this episode, Jocelyn St. Cyr, LICSW, a therapist in private practice in Arlington, MA talks with us about her work with trauma survivors, and how trauma impacts people over time. Jocelyn defines trauma/PTSD, and also provides educates us on the symptoms of PTSD. In addition to the lively discussion on trauma, Jocelyn provides unique insight on her personal experience of growing up as dark-skinned in a narcissistic society.

To connect with Jocelyn St. Cyr, LICSW or to purchase her grounding cards, please go to www.jocelynstcyr.com or www.groundingcards.com.

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18. Keep Your Snake In Its Cage: Dealing With The Sex Addicted Narcissist

Join me and Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S and owner of Growth Counseling Services for an enlightening chat on narcissism and sex addictions. Mari educates us on what a sex addiction is, how we can tell if a partner is a narcissistic sex addict, and why it is vital to our health to get support when battling these issues.

To get in touch with Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S please check out:

Growth Counseling Services

Resources mentioned:

https://www.IITAP.com

https://www.sexhealth.com

https://www.sanon.org

https://www.sexhelp.com

https://www.sexaa.org

Facing The Shadows, by Patrick Carnes, Phd.

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17. Stop Being a Grinch: Getting Through the Holidays After the Breakup With Your Narcissistic Partner

Part 3 of holiday series. The first holiday after a breakup with an abusive partner can be tough. Join me for tips on managing awkward situations where family wants an explanation of he breakup, and the intense feelings of loneliness that occur after your breakup with your toxic partner during the holidays.

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16. A Grinch is Stealing the Holidays: Dealing With a Narcissist During the Holidays

Part 2 of the holiday series. In this episode, I discuss the woes of spending the holidays with a narcissistic family member and how you can cope.

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15. Dealing with The Stress of The Holidays: My Family Drives Me Crazy

Part 1 of the holiday series. The holidays are here and for many they can be stressful. Spending money, traveling, taking time off from work, and going home to visit with family can put you out of your element. On top of that, you can suffer from the holiday blues. In today’s episode, I offer tips and suggestions on how to get through the holiday.

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14. Messing With My Emotions: The Roller Coaster of Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Dr. Vanessa Abernathy, a licensed clinical psychologist explains what emotional abuse is, and how we can reset and reboot our lives after enduring the rollercoaster of emotions associated with emotional abuse.

Resources Mentioned:

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, by Randi Krieger and Bill Eddy

Boundaries When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; By Henry Cloud

Women’s Resource Center

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Randi Krieger

To connect with Dr. Abernathy, please visit website www.vabernathypsyd.org Instagram: Vabernathypsyd Twitter: Vabernathypsyd

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13. Poisoned by the Snake! Learning About and Recovering From Toxic Relationships!

In this episode, Dr. Janae Taylor, PhD, LPC of Taylor Counseling and Consulting offers a candid conversation on toxic relationships. She educates us on the elements of destructive relationships, how we can manage them, and began to heal from these painful relationships.

Resources Mentioned:

Therapy For Black Girls Therapist Directory

Psychology Today

Toxic Parents, By Dr. Susan Forward

Narcissists: Break Free, By Pamela Kole

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, By Beverly Engel

To find out more about Dr. Janae Taylor, please visit
Taylor Counseling and Consulting or Minding My Black Business

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12. Signs That You Are Sleeping with A Masked Predator

In this episode, I have a chat with you about the common sexual signs and languages of sleeping with a narcissist.

References Mentioned:

Signs that you are sleeping with a narcissist

More Signs That You Are Sleeping With a Narcissist

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11. Psychological Abuse: The Way You Treat Me Kills Me

In honoring National Domestic Violence month, the topic of today’s podcast is psychological abuse. Dr. Jones defines and provides real-life examples of psychological abuse, based off of conversations with the participants of her published dissertation study of African American women who were psychologically abused by their parents while growing up. In this episode, Dr. Jones speaks about the women’s experiences of being abused, and how it has affected them well into their adult life.

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10. Keeping the Faith: The Abusive Power of God and Spirituality

In honor of National Domestic Violence Month, I am joined today by Camille McDaniel, LPCC for a passionate discussion about spiritual abuse. Camille is a Christian counselor in Georgia who specializes in helping those who have been spiritually traumatized. She educates us about spiritual abuse, which includes being hurt and manipulated under the guise of being accepted or faithful to your religious or spiritual beliefs. She and I have a candid discussion on the types of spiritual abuse, the effect that spiritual abuse has on a person, being manipulated by God and religious teachings, being shunned by your spiritual community for not being faithful to the religion, whether you can still be “good enough in the eyes of God if you leave your abusive partner,” as well as well as if we should refuse other help to “just pray about it.”

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