Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!

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25. Understanding and Dealing With Toxic Anger and Rage

Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI, Certified Anger Management Specialist and I sit down to have a chat about the function of anger and how it can help or hurt us. Patrice and I discuss cultural hot topics such as the angry black woman and the angry family. She also shares tips and tools about anger that is out of control.

To connect with Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI go to www.patricendouglas.com

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24. Rediscovering Your Sexual Health

Chasity Chandler, LMHC, ICADC, CST, CDWF, MCAP discusses the importance of understanding and having discussions about how sexual health. Her candid conversation explains why not having conversations about sexual health can lead to feelings of shame and guilt.

To connect with Ms. Chasity Chandler please visit her website http://www.centerforsexualhealthandwellness.com

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23. Stop the People Pleasing and Teach People How to Respect Your Boundaries

In this episode, Latasha Matthews, LPC and I have a candid discussion about boundaries. Latasha is the owner of Illumination Counseling and Coaching and she explains what boundaries are, why they are needed for self-preservation, and ways to protect ourselves without feeling guilty. Lack of boundaries and the inability to say no can lead to destructive relationships.

Resources Mentioned:

Boundaries, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

To connect with Latasha Matthews, LPCC please visit www.illuminationcc.com

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22. Mediation, Reviving, and Thriving After Divorce

The 1st episode of season 2! In this episode we discuss divorce and the impact that it has on the family. My guest Ms. Chaute Thompson, LMHC, wears many hats as a RESET and Divorce Mindfulness Coach, Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, and Parenting Coordinator. Chaute discusses the change that happens as a family goes through a divorce, as well as how women struggle to rebuild life after divorce. She discusses the process of family mediation, and how she helps to empower the children and the parents through the process.

Resources Mentioned:

Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn, By John Maxwell

The Five Love Languages, By Gary Chapman

To connect with Chaute Thompson LMHC, please visit www.inspirehopehealthhealing.com

www.chautethompson.com

visit Chaute’s FB Group: Brand New Me-Phenomenal You

Visit Instagram: Chaute Thompson

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21. Where Was The Village To Protect The Children: How We Can Prevent Child Abuse, Torture, and Death

In this solo episode, I review the case of Mitchelle Blair, which is where a mother murdered and tortured her children. How did this happen? I discuss how we as a community can come together and intervene when families are experiencing abuse.

Resources Mentioned:

Casefile Podcast Episode 20: Stoni Blair and Stephen Berry

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20. Addiction and the Narcissistic Partner

Robert Cox, LMHC at Life Recovery Consulting discusses codependency and boundaries with narcissistic partners who struggle with addiction. Addiction in narcissistic partners, if it’s possible to help a narcissistic partner with an addiction, and how to know when it’s time to walk away from a unhealthy relationship are highlights of the discussion.

Resources Mentioned:

Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can or Should Be Saved, by Lundy Bancroft

Al-Anon

Alateen

Narc-anon

Coda

To connect with Robert Cox, LMHC please contact www.liferecoveryconsulting.com for more information.

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19. The Lasting Impacts of Trauma and Colorism In a Narcissistic Society

In this episode, Jocelyn St. Cyr, LICSW, a therapist in private practice in Arlington, MA talks with us about her work with trauma survivors, and how trauma impacts people over time. Jocelyn defines trauma/PTSD, and also provides educates us on the symptoms of PTSD. In addition to the lively discussion on trauma, Jocelyn provides unique insight on her personal experience of growing up as dark-skinned in a narcissistic society.

To connect with Jocelyn St. Cyr, LICSW or to purchase her grounding cards, please go to www.jocelynstcyr.com or www.groundingcards.com.

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18. Keep Your Snake In Its Cage: Dealing With The Sex Addicted Narcissist

Join me and Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S and owner of Growth Counseling Services for an enlightening chat on narcissism and sex addictions. Mari educates us on what a sex addiction is, how we can tell if a partner is a narcissistic sex addict, and why it is vital to our health to get support when battling these issues.

To get in touch with Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S please check out:

Growth Counseling Services

Resources mentioned:

https://www.IITAP.com

https://www.sexhealth.com

https://www.sanon.org

https://www.sexhelp.com

https://www.sexaa.org

Facing The Shadows, by Patrick Carnes, Phd.

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17. Stop Being a Grinch: Getting Through the Holidays After the Breakup With Your Narcissistic Partner

Part 3 of holiday series. The first holiday after a breakup with an abusive partner can be tough. Join me for tips on managing awkward situations where family wants an explanation of he breakup, and the intense feelings of loneliness that occur after your breakup with your toxic partner during the holidays.

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16. A Grinch is Stealing the Holidays: Dealing With a Narcissist During the Holidays

Part 2 of the holiday series. In this episode, I discuss the woes of spending the holidays with a narcissistic family member and how you can cope.

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